I got some time to make sense of things this weekend

Try that site… should hopefully get you up and running.
Three videos, have not personally gone through them. But it sounds like it is in the right direction.

I am using HaXe(Lime 6.3.1) & OpenFL(8.0.2) as they work nicer with the Android NDK v13
Though that should not make a difference for the iOS build.